Saturday, September 19, 2009

10 years...and forever to go

My good friend Yoga Zen Babe told me that this is what her husband wrote in the card that he gave her for their three year anniversary. 'And forever to go'- I guess it could come across negatively, but I love the statement.

Trainer and I celebrated our 10 year anniversary last night. Much like we did 10 years ago, sans the ocean, audience of loved ones and food poisoning. It's almost tradition at this point, we always have pizza, and then go to bed, to sleep. Then, the next morning we 'celebrate' before getting out of bed. Tonight we'll go out, nothing fancy, and I'll probably have a margarita, or a Corona.

10 years, a mix of bliss and bitter times. The roller coaster of all relationships. The realization that marriage is HARD and it takes work. That you may not always like your partner, and there are times when they might not like you, and even times when you don't like yourself, but you love each other and that is what gets you though. The acceptance of the good and the bad, the light and the dark. One person is never more important than the other, never ever more important than the relationship.

Trainer got me the same card as last year and he did it on purpose. He says that it's a classic. On the inside it says, 'You know what I love about you?' and on the inside it says, 'Simply Everything!'

We both reminisced in our respective cards, writing down our memories and knowing that we've helped each other grow as individuals, which made us a stronger couple. Like that other saying, 'That which doesn't kill us will only make us stronger'..well, we're both still alive...that's a good sign right? Haha!

I don't claim to have any relationship advice, none, nada, but just remember that no one is perfect...including yourself.


julie said...

Aww, how sweet. I guess marriage is like weight loss- not always fun, often frustrating, but if you stay with it, the rewards are great? OK, I'm corny this morning. Happy Anniversary!

The Sports Mama said...

Happy anniversay to you guys. I know it's been a lot like slogging through mud and quicksand.

And like you, I've always found that the key to making MY marriage work? Is to remember that its HIS marriage, too.

Love you!

mdraeger said...

I've been married for a little over 12 years and boy is this post spot on. Congrats on your anniversary, that's awesome!