Thursday, April 17, 2008

I need a wife...

Yes, yes...more ranting about the husbands... Actually I got a call from one of my dearest friends today, I'll keep her anonymous in this one, and she gave me a great topic for today. I think this blog will reach out to most of my friends that have children and even those that do not.

My dear friend is a working mom, she works for a large corporation and is she has a job that is integral to the success of all the employees. She has to travel to get to work, about an hour and a half each way, and has to travel overseas at times. This was never an issue before she had her little one. And even with the little one she still makes it happen. Now...she has her "perfect" husband (in his mind) that also has an important job and he makes important decisions every day. But what makes his job more important than hers? Is it the money? No...they are pretty much equals. Is it the company?, her company is larger and more widely known than his. Is it their positions? Well...again, only in his mind because he really doesn't have a clue as to what she does.

On the other side of the world there are husbands like Trainer. They don't have the extra responsibility of children. When they make a decision they think that it only affects themselves. Well, I guess that some of the dad's out there do that too, but most think about their children when making decisions.

Which brings me to this point:

Why do men assume that being considerate and helpful is an option?

This is why all women need a wife. Someone that just does things because they need to be done, not to get a thank you. I mean, when the dishwasher needs to be emptied do we say, "Hey honey, I emptied the dishwasher! Isn't that great? Aren't I a good wife??" No, we just do it. When a mother has a sick child who comes first? Certainly not the client or colleague that flew in for a is ALWAYS the child first...then the animals...then the husband...then the client...and then MAYBE if there is time left - yourself. A wife would come home and start doing things, feeding the baby, picking up the floor, all the while answering emails and pages and getting dinner started. And the sex...don't get me started on the sex...first you get up at o'dark thirty, then after working a 10 hour day, being in traffic for 2-3 hours, getting the baby from daycare, feeding/changing the baby, making dinner, cleaning up the house, check the last of the emails and putting everyone to bed do you really think sex is an option?

Not all men are like that, some of you got really, really lucky...or your lying....or you just haven't seen the 12 year old husband come out of his shell yet. Oh, he's in there...believe me. Until then, enjoy it. And after that...start looking for a wife.


Sexy Hippy (why not?!) said...

This is classic. It was just Tuesday that my husband mentioned to a single female friend of ours who was complaining how much she hates to do laundry, "You should get yourself a wife! They're great!"

soul mate said...

I always say to myself that life would be a whole lot easier if I was married to me! I always know what I'm thinking and I always know what needs to be done, when it needs be done, and most importantly, HOW it needs to be done. But, then again, I would miss Joe. :-) And I wouldn't want to put up with me when I'm in one of my many moods and/or melt downs. That's for darn sure!

The Sports Mama said...

My biggest fear in getting a wife? One of us (Coach or myself) would end up liking her better, and then we'd have all sorts of issues being married! :)

Ok, really? I just worry that he'll discover someone other than his mother can cook better than me. Its a pretty safe bet that most people can. But he hasn't had anyone else cook for him! :)

yoga babe said...

Like Soul Mate I think it would be great to be married to myself. Except there wouldn't be anyone around to protect me from bears or move heavy furniture.

Celia said...

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